The Q of Philosophy

What is the Q of philosophy? Splendid minds, so I've learned, get stuck at Q. And whilst still stuck at Q contemplate R. Light their pipe and walk. Up and down, up and down; advance and retreat; bear down upon and turn away; stop dead and stand in silence looking at the sea. R for Ramsay. Mr Ramsay with a wife as beautiful as Helen, a now greying Helen (of Troy), and eight children. Mr Ramsay on a family holiday in Skye, and yet the man of thought must think.
Q has been reached; he is sure of Q, and has dug his heels in at Q. I'm not sure of Q, or what he could demonstrate of it, because I don't think it is to Question; and if it's not that then what is it? Quickness of mind? Quietude? A man who needs walking privacy? Walking, as other philosophers have demonstrated, is good for thinking. Is Mr Ramsay perhaps a Nietzsche scholar? And should I really be thinking on this, writing of this only forty pages in?
When the mind starts whirring though I have to work. Wait for other details to emerge, to be made explicit, and thoughts such as they were, as they occur, will be gone. And so I take risks, updating notes, adjusting perceptions, but letting earlier assumptions stay. Fool! People will think, perhaps utter, who write after digestion has taken place. That to me disturbs the process. I can only write when I am acquiring knowledge, not after I've acquired it. And perhaps I won't in this case, although I should say with full disclosure I have met Ramsay before, once before when he was then as he is now holidaying in Skye. He was stuck on Q then too, but I cannot recall whether Q was ever defined.
If I remember rightly (and my recall is not always accurate) I was at that time more taken with other members of his party. Lily Briscoe, with her 'little Chinese eyes in her small puckered face' and Charles Tansley ('the atheist, the little atheist' as the children call him) and James' relationship with his mother. I was less of a thinker, less of a writer then, but now, like Mr Ramsay though with less experience at it, I am braver in thought and have more confidence in the paths it takes me down.
I shouldn't have spoken however of Lily Briscoe, for now all I can think of is Lily, and of her painting, and of her talks, occasional walks, with William Bankes, the widower. Neither of which are an R or a Q. What is W?
Mr Ramsay is frustrated with me for my attention has drifted, my praise diverted. His arms and legs are swinging, swinging. Up, down, turn. Stop, look and turn again. Am I, with my eyes, following him? And if not, why not?
What would my gaze meet with if I did? A stern countenance, a softened expression, the face of a man tormented? I might see a soldierly figure on parade; a stick man looking out to sea, studying the weather. And whatever he decided would be right of course, and wouldn't be disagreed with. Or perhaps a man seeming to admire the potted geraniums, or the picture his wife and son made, framed by the window.
Mr Ramsay is watching, is waiting, impatiently. He is not however the type to tap his foot; he is the type to hum, to say a melancholy phrase to himself and startle everyone. He waits, outside the window, on the terrace, his eye like that of an eagle's, as he examines rather than listens to the mother reading to the child the story of the Fisherman and His Wife. I, like James, have become absorbed in it; Mr Ramsay is quite forgotten. Mrs Ramsay, as she reads aloud, is half-lost in her own thoughts. But mother first her total submergence into remoteness does not occur until she is alone, all alone, when no vocals are required. She can be silent; the one interruption the stroke of the Lighthouse, and the only sound the click of her knitting needles. Mrs Ramsay now has all my attention.
Until Mr Ramsay passes by and chuckles. Q and R it seems have left his mind, and for a time even Z. He has reached the hedge, where he comes to a halt to look into it, this great thinker. Poor little hedge, I murmur, as my eye continues its trace along and down the page. Mr Ramsay himself has assumed a sad expression. Such a change in tempers. He sighs. Ah, R...R would be something...but Hume, that enormously fat philosopher, stuck in a bog ha ha ha.

Picture credit: Philosopher, Henri Martin (source: WikiArt). 

See: To the Lighthouse by Virginia Woolf.

Written in lock-down, May 2020. 

The Zone of Shadow

It's possible to love, a little too much, a little too well, the shadow of a person better than the person, the flesh and blood version.
That people's shadows, those they've left behind, can prove more dear than when they're physically with you is perhaps not something I ought to give voice to. Is it wise, I ask myself. Probably not, but I cannot let it pass without some rumination and comment, and besides, we live in an age where all manner of things are said that shouldn't be. And besides that besides, there's another: the idea came not from me, but from Alain in The Cat who tiptoes around the fact that he prefers it, as does his beloved feline companion Saha, when Camille's not there.
I instantly understood, as I had on the first, and now second, reading of Colette's story. Alain, an only child is speaking to another. For no matter how old you get to be or what circumstances you find yourself in you will always be an only, and that position will form your view. There's no other position for you to take. It's not necessarily reasonable, but it's what you know; you are what you are.
And what that is in some people's eyes, as well as that of your own, is a difficult character. Alain says so himself; he knows he needs time and he knows he's not being given it. Pace, setting your own, is important; yet you can't expect others to know this, to perceive this, but if you can't express this and only act out, stubbornly, defiantly or sulkily, then it does make you seem unreasonable, intolerant, difficult. The problem for onlys is this time can stretch, so that instead of attempting to grow used to something they keep things the same and others (or experiences) at a distance. Onlys know, in some deeper layer of themselves, they are doing this, but how else can they be?
Yes, they might convince themselves they can change and then try harder than most people to do so, but these attempts will mostly fail, because 'wanting' is not the same as having to, as feeling in some way made to. Frustration builds. And might then burst out uncharacteristically or the effects of strain be seen in their physique. They, for all their sustained effort, enter the zone of the shadow, but unhappily. For while they might prefer to people their world with shadows, they don't want in waking or sleeping life to yet become one. Shadows are just easier to be with, to deal with. They don't make demands, but for them to exist and you to think more kindly of them you have to first be with them, spend time with them in solid person, and that is, as you might expect, the problem. Though the ordeal, the anxiousness of it, the preparation for it, is somewhat lessened if it's for short periods of time.
Family, of course, don't count, as they will be familiar with most of your funny little, and more difficult, ways, and be more tolerant of them. They may even know you better than you know yourself, and yet know when you have to be allowed to try, though they might have their own (unspoken) feelings on the matter. I'm thinking of Alain's mother, and even their household help. The Alain and Camille 'experiment' was never going to work; I think they sensed this, although they also, it's true, had their prejudices. Maybe they too didn't want it to work.
Did Alain? I think he had done what other onlys do: fool himself it could, perhaps without considering all that this change meant; perhaps dismissing any moments of unease, any misgivings, not realising the situation, his personal turmoil, would increase once a real commitment had been made. He really wasn't ready for the 'living' part. The shadow of Camille was what he wanted, left with him after brief instants of togetherness, not her physical presence waiting for him.
Alain is what a lot of onlys are, a loner. More comfortable alone in his own company. More relaxed in his own private space. More at home in familiar surroundings. Onlys are like cats (though they might not be cat owners or animal lovers), independent and territorial. Lapses of judgement mostly happen when they attempt or someone else attempts to domesticate them in an alien way. The thing, the person trying to possess them then becomes a rival, for their time, energy, affection. Their solution to that is to restore their Kingdom.

Picture credit: Garden, Jean Francois Millet (source: WikiArt).

See The Cat by Colette (here revisited for a second time).

Written in lock-down May 2020.

For the Sake of Decorum

To be a lady, you have to sit with your knees close to each other, your legs pressed together at all times. Never should they open, on a low seat, on a high seat, on any seat at all, even if you're wearing trousers, for while your virtue is then saved it looks very unladylike and far too manlike when that is what you are not. There were such rules given to girls the same age or younger as Colette's Gigi, with heron-like legs.
I was definitely younger than fifteen (though my legs at that earlier stage were less heron-like and more like tree trunks) for by the time I had reached Gigi's age I had gone into long skirts. Before then I had however been made aware that short skirts were hazardous, particularly as ra-ras were in fashion. Knickers, on no account, must be seen, which really meant you couldn't sprawl and make yourself comfortable anywhere. Thank god for choice, thank god for trousers, because who wants to behave like a lady, little or big, young or old, all the time.
There were other rules too, some of which I still stick to or that adhere to me: Don't talk with your mouth full; don't eat with your mouth open; ask to leave the table; say please and thank you; don't slouch; stand up straight; don't drag your feet.
Naturally, living alone I don't now ask to leave the table, but I remember when I did. I used to hide under it as the adults continued. It's not as daft as it sounds. There was no choice: to go under was the only way to get down; granted however I didn't have to stay underneath it. I seem to however like being amongst feet, hidden from view. A big, silent mouse. If there were three mice, as there sometimes were, it would make the adults uneasy and we would be told to get out from under it.
As for posture, well, it hasn't greatly improve but initially it was caused by perversity, for how I hated that constant refrain: don't slouch, shoulders back. Left to my own devices, I slumped, shoulders over, body down. Then it became a habit, where to do otherwise I had to think hard, as if my body kept being overtaken by a huge sigh. From disaffected youth to disaffected adult. Why am I here? Standing up straight gets you noticed, I thought; the opposite is truer and more irritating, and marks you out as lazy or apologetic. I dare to exist! But I do and don't want to be noticed so don't. Such is the confused feelings of the teenaged youth and the young adult.
The prompt answering to being called went to not answering at all, to pretending not to hear. I wasn't there, I wasn't within range, even if only in the next room it was evident I was. Never left alone was how it felt. Doing what? Nothing particularly. Loafing. Reading. The latter not seen as necessary during the day. And so I stubbornly ignored my name being called until it couldn't be ignored any longer, usually because the person who'd been calling was then in front of me. Time to profess all innocence and say 'No, I didn't hear you', and hope that my facial expression matched the words coming out of my mouth. I was not born to lie, occasionally omit or deny, but not tell an outright and outrageous lie. And I was a dutiful girl. I normally did what was asked, often without being asked, so was it really too much to buy myself some time? When I was an adult I wouldn't forget as so many thousands did.
I haven't, but then I've never tested myself. Perhaps if I had been a parent I too would imitate their nagging calls. I know I would, in all likelihood, try to instil the same rules of propriety, though I wonder whether they would work, or even if they're relevant, in this modern age? Do they matter as much as they once did? The etiquette which used to be applied to most if not all circumstances has lost its appeal, for it does not now signal anything. And the 'new' etiquette changes so fast and so often it's hard to keep up with; you never know where you are, which is why I think back to what I know, and, though I point out its faults from a child's perspective, stand by it.
The rules have served me well, even if at times they have made me feel a little stiff in company, and if I wish now I had listened and looked after my posture better. Decorum requires a lot of you, especially if you're a girl soon to turn into a young lady, for your conduct in certain situations is everything.

Picture credit: The Rosebud Garden of Girls (the second Mrs G F Watts and her sisters) taken by Julia Margaret Cameron (source: Wikimedia).

See: Gigi by Colette.

Written in lockdown, May 2020.